I can't blame Jen for getting annoyed about the baby question either! I know exactly how she feels
The big baby question has reared it’s crowning head again for Jennifer Aniston.
Even before news of Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie‘s wedding turned the spotlight back on to his ex wife, earlier this week she spoke candidly about the constant pressure to justify the fact she’s not had a baby.
Talking to Carson Daly on The Today Show in America, Jen, 45, admitted: ‘I don’t have this sort of check list of things that have to be done. And if they are not checked, then I’ve failed some part of my feminism or my being a woman or my value or my worth as a woman because I haven’t, you know, birthed a child?’
Jen, who has been enaged to actor Justin Theroux for two years, goes on to stress the point: ‘I’ve birthed a lot of things and I feel like I’ve mothered many things and I don’t think it is fair to put that kind of pressure on people. It is always such an issue. ”Are you married yet? Have you had your babies yet?”’
She’s got a point. The assumption that every woman can, or even wants, to have children is ridiculous. One in four women will be childless – or childfree as I prefer to say – for a variety of reasons.
A quick survey of friends reveal a married mum feeling pressure to have baby number two, a married couple ruling out having kids cos they’re happy as they are and another single friend who has had her eggs frozen at the age of 35.
Me? I gave a man a mouthful for assuming I’m single because I’m a career woman.’ Er, I’m a woman with a career. Do you ever assume guys are single because they’re career men?’ No, of course not. Grrrr.
And at the grand old age of 36, a colleague offered me the number of a sperm client, in all seriousness, and told me I should just join the mummy club solo. I declined.
Of course, Jen‘s timing is a bit cringe as ex-husband Brad, 50, married Angelina, 39, at the weekend in a secret ceremony in the South of France.
The couple have six children: Maddox, 13, and Pax, 10, Zahara, nine, are adopted while Shiloh, eight, and twins Knox and Vivienne, six, are biological.
But Jen‘s not the only celeb to talk about the unfair pressure on women to talk about their fertility and future plans to have a baby compared to their male counterparts.
TV presenter and author Dawn O’Porter, who is married to Bridesmaids actor Chris O’Dowd, revealed she is pregnant this week – congratulations guys!
But Dawn, 35, has previously objected to the interest in her womb activities and pressure to have kids while no one asks Chris about his plans for fatherhood.
‘I think it’s a really natural question to ask and I totally understand why people do,’ she’s said. ‘But I get slightly shirty because Chris could do seven interviews on the trot and not get asked once about me or if we’re going to have kids.’
And Dame Helen Mirren, 69, who thought she would have children with husband Taylor Hackford but it never happened’, reveals it wasn’t women who put pressure on her to have a baby.
It was only boring old men,’ Helen has said. And whenever they went, “What? No children? Well, you’d better get on with it, old girl,” I’d say ‘No! F*** off!'”
Something Jennifer and the rest of us should probably do too!
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