Now's Sarah Robertson says there's no excusing the wedding guest who chose to hijack a couple's nuptials to propose to his girlfriend
Several years ago I got engaged. After calling our respective parents to tell them the happy news, he-who-shan’t-be-named asked me another question: ‘Do we tell everyone at the wedding?’
You see, my then fiance had chosen to propose to me the day before we were due to attend his cousin’s very lavish wedding celebrations, and sweetly, if not naively, thought it would be lovely to announce our happy news to everyone at their wedding.
He was soon stopped in his tracks by me vehemently shouting ‘No’, before asking him if he had lost all sense of reasoning.
For a moment, he seemed at a loss as to why it would be a problem until I explained that you never upstage someone else’s wedding day with your own big news.
If you’ve found the man or woman of your dreams and they’ve said yes, it’s likely you’ve also forked out a small fortune to celebrate that fact.
A wedding should be the happiest day of a woman’s life. All attention is on the bride and it is their one chance to shine.
No bride should have to share the limelight with another woman on their OWN big day.
It’s no less than if you took off all your clothes and streaked through the church. There is such a thing as good manners and if, as a wedding guest, you can’t handle someone else being the centre of attention then don’t go.
Needless to say, we kept our good news to just ourselves. The engagement ring was left in its box back in the hotel safe and our lips sealed, while we went on and toasted the newlyweds, only telling them we were engaged when they got back from their honeymoon.
Many have asked if the guest shown in the photo, uploaded to Reddit by an anonymous user, had just got innocently swept along by the romance of the day causing him to dramatically drop down to one knee.
But if you look at the picture he has a ring, which means he planned it, making it all the more an unforgivable stunt.
And if you have any other reason to shrug and say ‘what is all the fuss?’ then I ask you this: Just look at the bride’s face.
Yes, she’s smiling, but I suspect it’s through gritted teeth.
It was her day. Now it’s not. It’s someone else’s.